Safeguard Your Marriage
I got a call from a friend not too long ago that was having a disagreement with her boyfriend. She told me that he was going to go out with a girl, “just a friend.” She asked what advice I had for her and I asked what she was doing to safeguard her relationship.
One of the reasons I became a SYMBIS (Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts) Facilitator is because we believe that SYMBIS is about taking the right steps toward a forever marriage before you even say, “I do!” One of the necessary steps to a forever marriage means asking each other what safeguard measures you will place on your marriage.
For me, growing up in a broken home meant safeguarding my marriage was not an option; it was necessary! Here are some things to consider and discuss with your fiancé or spouse.
Trust and commitment are high on my list, which means we can NEVER lie to each other or keep secrets in our relationship.
Agree to never say the word “divorce,” because saying it will eventually make it so.
The Marriage Triangle teaches us that the closer we are to God, the closer we are to our spouse. When God is at the center of our lives and marriage, our marriage is made strong in Him!
Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott tell us to have a married couple mentor us. Marriage Mentors are a seasoned and experienced couple who come alongside a less experienced couple to help show them the way.
Paul teaches us, use only words that will edify each other. Do not use abusive language. I wake up to compliments from my husband every morning, before I even get out of bed. That just makes my day! I’m beautiful, special, smart, sexy, and wonderful. That’s me! LOL!
Everyday connections mean everyday memories and a stronger marriage! Wash dishes together, go on a picnic, take walks and talk, text “I love you” or “I’m thinking of you,” and don’t forget date nights are vital to a thriving marriage.
Set boundaries that will protect your marriage. Dr. Gary Chapman says that if you feel an attraction toward a coworker (for instance), avoid the “drinking fountain. ”In other words, don’t frequent a place you know you’ll run into the opposite sex.
Remember why you said I do? You married your spouse because you love and cherish him/her. Your spouse is the most precious person to you. A fight should not be about who has the last word or that you won the fight. How can we resolve “this?” How do you put both of your needs and wants on the table and love and respect each other? To hurt my husband means that I just hurt the one I love the most. Something doesn’t feel good about that.
I have found the one whom my soul loves! Song of Solomon 3:4
These are just a few recommendations on how to safeguard your marriage. For more information about safeguarding your marriage or to schedule a relationships coaching session, e-mail me at SandyLIsche@gmail.com